Recommended Reading

Over the course of 25+ years, I’ve come to rely on other people’s expertise in book form. The following books have been very helpful in my work, and even more helpful to the people with whom I’ve worked.

I had included links to for each of these books since they have the best prices for new and used editions.

After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Dr. Janis Abrahms Spring
Dr. Spring has worked with so many couples attempting to re-build their relationship after infidelity that the wisdom she has learned over the years simply pours out of the book. This practical guide, with exercises, is designed to help the hurt partner, as well as the individual who was unfaithful.

No More Sleepless Nights by Dr. Peter Hauri
Various sleep issues are common with a multitude of psychological disorders. Here in one classic book, most behavioral factors affecting sleep are explained and examined while specific treatments are recommended. Easy read.

The Hurried Child: Growing Up Too Soon Too Fast by Dr. David Elkind
There are several editions of this book with the original being 1981; get the oldest, least expensive copy you can find. I have a child who wants to be an adult yesterday. While somewhat controversial, this book helps encourage parents to ‘let children, be children’.

Diagnosis Cancer: Your Guide through the First Few Months by Dr. Wendy Schessel Harpham
I really don’t know anyone who hasn’t been touched by a close friend or family member with cancer. This is an early-written (1997), easily read guide. While medical treatments for cancer are always changing, some things do stay the same. It presents a nice balance between enough information without being too much too soon.

A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau
While there are several well-written, professional books about sex, I came across this book when working with a young Christian couple. This book, written by a Christian psychologist, is a very useful and creates healthy expectations and behavioral techniques for those who have abstained from sex before marriage. It is also useful for couples who desire to enhance their sex life during marriage.

Victims No Longer by Mike Lew
This book was specifically written for men who have been the victim of sex abuse. I’ve found it so helpful that I also recommend it for women to read. Written with sensitivity, it is practical yet also filled with individual’s stories that helps clients further heal and achieve higher functioning.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John Gottman
Based on solid scientific research, as well as being practical (exercises included), Gottman's approach is to learn to eliminate damaging habits and deepen the friendship between the partners. While focusing on acceptance, empathy, and forgiveness, the motivated couple can learn to apply his principles to enhance their deepened relationship.

The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns
Used by many cognitive-behavioral therapists over the last two decades, Dr. Burns’ seminal handbook explains and teaches the basics of changing the way you think in order to change the way you feel. Easily understood by the majority of clients, you may end up giving this book as presents to friends and family members.